Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the key to navigating life with wisdom, self-awareness, and resilience. It’s about understanding our emotions, managing them effectively, and building strong relationships. For Black men, developing EQ is even more essential in a world that often expects us to suppress our feelings. The right books can offer guidance, wisdom, and personal strategies for emotional growth. Here are 25 books by Black authors that every Black man should read to deepen his emotional intelligence and strengthen his mental wellness.
1. “Emotional Intelligence 2.0” by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves
While not written by a Black author, this book is foundational for understanding EQ. It lays the groundwork for emotional awareness, relationship-building, and self-regulation—key skills that Black men need to thrive in both personal and professional spaces. Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves
2. “The Souls of Black Folk” by W.E.B. Du Bois
Du Bois’ classic offers deep insights into the Black experience in America, helping readers develop social awareness and emotional depth. His concept of “double consciousness” still resonates today, making it a must-read for self-reflection and identity development.
3. “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz
This book teaches powerful lessons on self-awareness, personal freedom, and emotional control. Although Ruiz isn’t a Black author, his wisdom aligns with the emotional resilience that Black men need to navigate life’s challenges. “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz
4. “Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates
Coates’ letter to his son explores Black identity, systemic racism, and emotional resilience. It’s an introspective read that helps Black men understand their emotions in a society that often dismisses their pain. “Between the World and Me” by Ta-Neh
5. “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida
Though Deida is not Black, this book speaks on masculine emotional intelligence, relationships, and spiritual growth—topics highly relevant to Black men seeking balance between strength and vulnerability. “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida
6. “Cry Like a Man” by Jason Wilson
Wilson’s journey of breaking free from toxic masculinity is a powerful read for Black men learning to express their emotions without shame. “Cry Like a Man” by Jason Wilson
7. “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle
Tolle’s lessons on mindfulness and emotional awareness help Black men detach from past pain and future anxiety, focusing on the present moment for mental clarity and peace. “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle
8. “My Grandmother’s Hands” by Resmaa Menakem
Menakem explores the trauma stored in our bodies, specifically in Black men, and offers practical exercises to release emotional pain and build resilience. “My Grandmother’s Hands” by Resmaa Menakem
9. “You Are Your Best Thing” edited by Tarana Burke and Brené Brown
This collection of essays by Black authors dives deep into vulnerability, emotional healing, and self-acceptance. “You Are Your Best Thing” edited by Tarana Burke and Brené Brown
10. “Black Men and Depression” by John Head
Head’s book sheds light on mental health struggles among Black men and provides practical tools for emotional well-being. “Black Men and Depression” by John Head
11. “Holler If You Hear Me” by Michael Eric Dyson
A deep dive into Tupac’s life and emotional depth, this book teaches Black men how to channel their pain into purpose. “Holler If You Hear Me” by Michael Eric Dyson
12. “The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health” by Rheeda Walker
This book empowers Black men with tools to prioritize their emotional well-being and dismantle stigmas around mental health. “The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health” by Rheeda Walker
13. “Shook One: Anxiety Playing Tricks on Me” by Charlamagne Tha God
Charlamagne’s personal journey with anxiety and therapy helps normalize emotional struggles and encourages Black men to seek help. “Shook One: Anxiety Playing Tricks on Me” by Charlamagne Tha God
14. “Manhood: The Bare Facts” by Dr. David Wallace
A practical guide on emotional intelligence, self-discipline, and masculinity from a Black perspective.
15. “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho
A story of self-discovery and personal legend, this book teaches Black men how to trust the journey and embrace emotional growth. “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho
16. “Love’s Executioner” by Irvin D. Yalom
While not written by a Black author, this book is a profound exploration of therapy and emotional self-discovery. “Love’s Executioner” by Irvin D. Yalom
17. “Dare to Lead” by Brené Brown
Though not a Black author, Brown’s lessons on vulnerability and leadership are essential for Black men navigating corporate and community spaces. “Dare to Lead” by Brené Brown
18. “The Warrior Method” by Raymond Winbush
This book outlines a framework for raising emotionally intelligent Black boys and fostering emotional growth in Black men. “The Warrior Method” by Raymond Winbush
19. “Fearing the Black Body” by Sabrina Strings
A critical look at how societal narratives affect Black men’s emotional well-being and self-image. “Fearing the Black Body” by Sabrina Strings
20. “Invisible Man” by Ralph Ellison
A literary classic that explores identity, emotional suppression, and self-awareness. “Invisible Man” by Ralph Ellison
21. “Esquire’s The Meaning of Life: Wisdom from 65 Extraordinary People” (Includes Black voices)
This book shares life lessons from various influential figures, including Black leaders, to inspire emotional and mental growth. “Esquire’s The Meaning of Life: Wisdom from 65 Extraordinary People”
22. “Sacred Woman” by Queen Afua
Though primarily aimed at women, Queen Afua’s lessons on healing and self-care are invaluable for Black men seeking emotional wellness. “Sacred Woman” by Queen Afua
23. “We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity” by bell hooks
Hooks dismantles toxic masculinity and provides a blueprint for emotionally intelligent Black men. “We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity” by bell hooks
24. “Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most” by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen
This book provides strategies for handling emotionally charged conversations, a crucial skill for Black men in personal and professional settings. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most” by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen
25. “The Black Male Handbook” edited by Kevin Powell
A guide on self-awareness, relationships, and emotional growth specifically tailored to Black men. “The Black Male Handbook” edited by Kevin Powell
Reading is one of the most powerful tools for self-development. These 25 books offer Black men insight, wisdom, and practical strategies to strengthen their emotional intelligence. Whether you’re looking for guidance in relationships, self-awareness, or mental wellness, these books provide a roadmap for emotional growth. Pick one up today and start your journey toward becoming a more emotionally intelligent and self-aware Black man.