For generations, men have been taught to be stoic, to never show their emotions and to always be strong. But this toxic notion that men should never cry or express their emotions is slowly being challenged. Men are human beings too, and crying is a natural response to emotions. It’s time we change the narrative and acknowledge that it’s okay for men to cry.
When growing up, many boys have heard their parents, coaches, friends, etc. say, “Suck it up,” or “Men don’t cry” which has lead society to think that men don’t have emotions, or isn’t supposed to simply feel. I have had a plethora of situations at this point in my life where I have kept myself distracted, or just busy so that I don’t naturally feel what my mind and body is telling me I should. Has it helped me? In some circumstances, yes, but for my own mental health? No. Sometimes running from pain can lead you to accomplish more, just because you’re working more often, but at the same time, I have seen myself not being able to sustain the success because at some point, I break. I need that time for me, either to just reflect, or simply just be a hermit and allow myself to be engulfed in my pain.
Crying has been traditionally viewed as a sign of weakness, and this perception has led many men to suppress their emotions. However, crying is a healthy way to cope with emotions and is a natural response to both joy and pain. Here are five reasons why it’s good for men to cry:
- It’s a natural emotional release: Crying is a natural response to emotions such as sadness, grief, and frustration. When you cry, you release pent-up emotions and feelings, which can help you feel lighter and less overwhelmed.
- It can improve your mood: Studies have shown that crying releases endorphins, which are feel-good hormones. So, if you’re feeling down, shedding a tear or two can actually help improve your mood.
- It can help you connect with others: When you cry, you show vulnerability, which can help others connect with you on a deeper level. Crying can help build emotional intimacy and strengthen relationships.
- It can help you process your emotions: Sometimes, you may not even know what you’re feeling, and crying can help you identify and process your emotions. Crying can help you gain clarity and perspective on your feelings.
- It can help you cope with stress: Crying is a natural stress reliever. When you cry, you release stress hormones, which can help you feel calmer and more relaxed.
Despite these benefits, men still struggle to express their emotions and cry. But it’s important to remember that crying doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it takes strength to show vulnerability and express your emotions. So, if you feel the need to cry, let it out. Cry in private or with someone you trust. Don’t be ashamed to express your emotions and embrace your humanity.
In conclusion, crying is a natural and healthy response to emotions, and it’s okay for men to cry. Suppressing emotions can lead to negative consequences such as anxiety, depression, and stress. So, the next time you feel the need to cry, don’t hold back. Embrace your emotions and let the tears flow. Remember, it’s okay to cry, and it’s a sign of strength, not weakness.
If you want a good book to read about understand of self and allowing yourself to heal from life traumas I strongly suggest to read Jason Wilson’s book, ‘Cry Like A Man‘. This book is amazing!